Post by hasset on Aug 16, 2009 14:22:34 GMT -6
There is nothing that brings out bad behavior more than having someone die and leave a few things to the heirs.
My aunt died a few years ago. I was the only one in her will (she had no children) but she did have a lawyer and a distant relative who was the executor of her will. She lived in Oregon and I was too far away to do her business. I received nothing and the executor had an "awfully lot of expenses". My aunt had pre paid for a fancy nursing home and private nursing and she only used those services for a year. Funny thing, I got nothing and not even the antiques that were promised to me. My aunt had offered me the money a few years before she died and I should have taken it but I thought that was too greedy. My husband and I do not want to live our lives in law suits and squabbles so we just said to heck with it all. We have our own money. We enjoyed my aunt for the few years we had known her. She was one of those relatives we had not known until I got into genealogy and located my father's long lost family.
When my mother died, she had left instructions to call her church to come and take all the furniture to sell in their annual garage sale. She had given everything of value to her four kids in advance. All we had to do was to have the church empty the house and then clean the house so it could be sold. There was nothing in that house any of us kids wanted. This was very simple until the lawyer handling her will could not get it through his head that the four of us kids were not fighting over something. The lawyer told me and my older brother that we had to inventory everything in the house. This took days and days and was all for nothing because it was all going to be donated to the church and had no monetary value to us kids. When the lawyer finally understood, he said we were the most unusual family because most families end up fighting about something. I think my parents did a good job in raising kids!
My aunt died a few years ago. I was the only one in her will (she had no children) but she did have a lawyer and a distant relative who was the executor of her will. She lived in Oregon and I was too far away to do her business. I received nothing and the executor had an "awfully lot of expenses". My aunt had pre paid for a fancy nursing home and private nursing and she only used those services for a year. Funny thing, I got nothing and not even the antiques that were promised to me. My aunt had offered me the money a few years before she died and I should have taken it but I thought that was too greedy. My husband and I do not want to live our lives in law suits and squabbles so we just said to heck with it all. We have our own money. We enjoyed my aunt for the few years we had known her. She was one of those relatives we had not known until I got into genealogy and located my father's long lost family.
When my mother died, she had left instructions to call her church to come and take all the furniture to sell in their annual garage sale. She had given everything of value to her four kids in advance. All we had to do was to have the church empty the house and then clean the house so it could be sold. There was nothing in that house any of us kids wanted. This was very simple until the lawyer handling her will could not get it through his head that the four of us kids were not fighting over something. The lawyer told me and my older brother that we had to inventory everything in the house. This took days and days and was all for nothing because it was all going to be donated to the church and had no monetary value to us kids. When the lawyer finally understood, he said we were the most unusual family because most families end up fighting about something. I think my parents did a good job in raising kids!
